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Dating Safety Tips for Online

Posted on October 15, 2017 in Uncategorized

Like it or not, Facebook seems to be here to stay. Google the phrase “we’re too connected on the internet” and you’ll find a whole host of people who wonder if, with the advent of Facebook, Twitter, G+, YouTube, Yelp, Reddit and so on, we’re more connected to each other than we fully realize. Is it too paranoid to question how, unbeknownst to us, this kind of over-connectivity can be detrimental to our daily lives? Anyone else smell a Skynet-style catastrophe in the making?

With Facebook’s inescapable omnipotence comes a relentless ream of business service apps that are willing to capitalize on the social platform’s apparent online monopoly. The latest in a long line of product cash-ins, the new Facebook app Bang With Friends allows Facebook friends to “get togetha”. Understandably, the tackiness of this apps inception has earned itself an outpouring of online criticism. The religious community has been equally outspoken, outraged and appalled by its contentious conception.

Yet another offshoot of this getting-to-know-your-FB-friends-in-the-Biblical-way idea comes in the form of TrintMe, which boasts a ‘take friendships further’ tagline. A UK version of BWF, called Would Love 2, is attempting to do the same thing, with the similar tagline of ‘taking the rejection out of dating.’ WL2, however, focuses more on dating as opposed to a simple one-off hook up, without seeming as openly vulgar in its origin. However, there is a steady increase in the presence of the online dating world, with sites such as OkCupid, Match.com, Cupid.com, PlentyOfFish, eHarmony, et al. There is also a solid growth in apps such as Bang With Friends, and both Zoosk and Are You Interested? have thousands of users.

If you are thinking of dipping your toes into the world of online dating, here are some basic yet essential safety tips that everyone should remember when going on a first date. The first is the most important to keep in mind:

Tip 1. Meet in a public place, preferably with a friend in tow. If you pick somewhere out in the open, such as a coffee shop, your friend can stay hidden away at a nearby table, where they can make sure things are going well and that you are safe. As the old adage goes, there’s safety in numbers if the date becomes unpleasant or disagreeable. Never meet someone in their home (or invite them over to your place either), no matter how well you think you know them from talking online in the initial steps of online dating.

Tip 2: Wherever you meet, and no matter how nervous you feel, DO NOT drink alcohol. Things can only go wrong if you need to use drinking as a coping mechanism, as well as possibly making the situation even more awkward and disastrous. Alcohol typically makes everyone a bad judge of character, and can seriously impair the senses. Please stay sober and stay safe.

Tip 3: Driving to and from the date is vital because it means that you can leave if you feel uncomfortable in the presence of your date. If they have picked you up from your house (which is also discouraged because your date now knows where you live!), it is up to them if they want to drive you home. If the date goes awry, they can refuse to give you a ride home, which will only exacerbate the situation. Don’t relinquish control by getting a ride with them, as it forces you to rely on someone else entirely.

Tip 4: If, for some reason, you choose not to take a friend with you, tell a few people where you are going, and with who. If possible, it’s a good idea to ask someone to call you during the date – let them know how things are going and that you’re out of harm’s way. By doing so, you create a handy get-out clause, where you can pretend that an emergency has arisen and you need to leave immediately.

Free Online Dating – Top Secrets About the Do’s and Don’ts

Posted on October 12, 2017 in Uncategorized

Do Make Sure It’s Actually Free

Before choosing the free online dating sites to join, you must make sure that the free site is actually free. It is not a free site if the fine print says it is only a two week free trial. It is not a free site if you learn that you only have free access to a small portion of the site, or if you cannot review all the profiles without paying additional funds. Perhaps you must make additional payments in order to prepare and report on a compatibility assessment provided at the web site.

Do Find the Best Site

Free online dating sites are plentiful on the internet. You owe it to yourself to find the best site possible, not only in the quality of the site’s security and safety, but in how well the site matches with your own personality and dating goals. Look for obvious security controls on the web site. Look for a site that has an excellent reputation. If you can find one that has a good recommendation from someone you trust. You should also find a site that has been around long enough to create a reputation for excellence.

Don’t Be in a Hurry

When you are a member of a free online dating site, you never need to be in a hurry to make things happen in your social life. You just can relax and enjoy the social outlet you get with online dating contacts without any pressure to complete any particular action on any given timetable. You can chat with friends online or get to know someone better and make arrangements for meeting in person for a friendly dating outlet. Choosing the pattern and level of your dating life is not required to be on a fixed schedule.

Don’t Pretend to Be Someone You are Not

Free online dating gives you the opportunity to find others who are like you, who share your interests and who have like life goals. For this reason, it is important that you don’t try to be someone who doesn’t exist. Not only is a false persona difficult to maintain over an extended period, but it will never be you. It is an artificial personality that cannot be ever fit you as well as your own characteristics. You would feel that someone was making a fool of you if they were less than honest with you. It works both ways.

Don’t pay more

Never pay for the services of a free online dating site. A free site should be completely free. Some sites pretend to be free, but if you read the fine print, you will find that there are some hidden charges included in the application or membership process. You actually get a better selection of people with a free site both in terms of numbers and in terms of variety of people, each with a unique lifestyle than you do when you pay for a membership on one of the elite paying sites.

Breaking the Rules of Dating

Posted on October 9, 2017 in Uncategorized

As a matchmaker, dating and relationship expert, I speak with thousands of singles that are looking to meet the love of their lives. Most people tell me they know exactly what they’re looking for in a life partner, but the truth of the matter is, most people have no clue what it is they really want. The most common responses from singles about what they are looking for in a partner are, “They have to have a great sense of humor, they have to have strong core values and come from a good family, they have to be active and adventurous…” These qualities are all basic generalizations that the majority of the singles population list about themselves on their online dating profiles. These are not unique personalized qualities that create a true sense of individuality about one’s self. How many online profiles do you have to scroll through or how many people do you have to meet at a bar before you would consider going on a date with them? How many dates do you actually have to go on with someone before you really know if you potentially met Mr. or Ms. Right? Most singles I interview say they would know after just one date because of all of the time and energy that was spent before they actually agreed to go out with someone. If this is true, then why are so many great first dates, last dates? If you are finally at a place in your life where you’re tired of dating and are ready to meet the love of your life, then that means you are going to have to start dating smarter, not harder. This also means that you may have to start challenging yourself to create new dating rules, instead of doing what everyone else is doing. In other words, if the standard dating rules that currently exist really work, then why are so many people still single?

For starters, I believe that many of today’s singles are relying too much on technology and chemistry as the driving force behind who they consider dating. Online personality tests, computerized compatibility algorithms combined with a great online photo and profile is the best way to ensure you will meet your life’s true love, right? With so many people using technology and chemistry as the driving force behind meeting someone, I can’t help but wonder how our parents did it, or their parent’s parents for that matter? Before technology allowed us to become lazy daters, there was a time when people used a genuine sense of getting to know someone before they even considered going on an actual date. There was a time when expectations were more realistic and people would date for months for the purpose of really getting to know each other, before they ended the dating process, rarely was it just one date. Why have we become so focused on looking for reasons why we shouldn’t date someone, rather than focusing on what we really like about the person we are meeting? How many people are you not meeting or giving a chance to because you don’t like their photo, something they wrote on a profile or just didn’t like something they said when in conversation with them? When it comes to dating, I believe that every person that is single could find themselves in a loving, romantic, passionate relationship if they really made a conscious effort to give more people they date a real chance.

I challenge you to meet someone that you believe you are truly compatible with, without looking at their photo. I challenge you to walk up to someone at a bar that you would normally not give the time of day to, and spend some time getting to know them. I challenge you to be real and authentic about whom you are and I challenge you to have a true sense of authenticity when asking someone about who they are and what they are interested in.

Men, I refuse to accept that chivalry is dead. Take extra time and energy to explore the women you are meeting for the purposes of finding out what they are truly about, what makes them tick. Take the time to listen to what women’s needs are and stop trying to impress them. Don’t have intimate relations with a woman unless your intentions to pursue a relationship with them are genuine, true and pure. Women will respond to you if you stop looking to see what you can get out of them, and start approaching them from the standpoint of what you can give them. This means that you should be respectful to women and their needs and not just try use women to fulfill your own needs. Most women want a giving, sensitive man that is confident, yet not overbearing, so do your best to balance trying to impress a woman with being yourself on a date.

Women, I understand you have worked hard to become who you are in today’s day and age, however, you should know that femininity is the ultimate fragrance that men are attracted to, not the latest perfume that claims to drive men wild. It has become increasingly more difficult for women to figure out what their roles are when it comes to dating. Just because some women have to work twice as hard to get ahead in the business world, does not mean that this effort should not carry on in the world of dating. Leave your work at the office and try to chime into your inner beauty. Never go straight from work to a dinner date or a night out. My suggestion is that every woman should take the time to unwind after their workday before they go on a date. Take a nice long bath, listen to something relaxing and romantic and take the time to make sure you look as feminine as possible.

Always remember to keep the focus on what makes you, you and do your best to get to know the person you are dating. Take two or three dates to really get to know someone and don’t allow yourself to manifest what you don’t like about them to be the reason why you stop dating. You owe it to yourself to really get to know someone before you count them out, but this also means that you owe it to yourself to allow who you’re dating to really get to know you too.

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